To maintain a simple and happy life during the crone years, it’s important to focus on the things that truly matter.
One of the main ways to do this is by learning to say "no" while declining politely. This sets boundaries and helps avoid feeling overwhelmed by endless to-do lists, commitments, and responsibilities.
Learning to say ‘no’ is a skill, not a sign of weakness or selfishness.
When faced with invitations or commitments that do not align fully with our priorities, it's important to respond thoughtfully. Start by considering the request and its implications on your time, energy, and overall wellbeing. Be honest and direct in your response, expressing gratitude for the opportunity while respectfully declining.
Another way is to ‘negotiate’. Perhaps suggesting someone else who may like to be asked or even suggest a different timeframe. You might explain that you have other commitments or that you need to prioritise your own well-being at this time.
After navigating the maiden and mother years, the crone years bring wisdom and perspective, urging us to recognise that time is a most valuable resource and we need to be selective about where we invest our time nad energy. This does not necessarily mean slowing down, but rather becoming more aware of the opportunities we want to pursue.
Letting go of unnecessary clutter, whether it be physical possessions that no longer bring us joy, or emotional baggage, like grudges and regrets is not only important but kind – to ourselves and to others. As women, we must make space for new experiences and opportunities by not wasting time on activities or relationships that do not align with our values. Instead, we should focus on spending time with those who matter to us and doing what we love.
Prioritising our health through nourishing our bodies with nutritious food, exercise, and practicing yoga and meditation become avenues for self-reflection, stress reduction, and inner peace. By incorporating yoga and meditation into our daily lives, we develop greater self-awareness, heightened concentration, and enhanced coping mechanisms to navigate life's challenges with grace.
In today's digital age, distractions are everywhere, from social media to endless emails. Online shopping can be a distraction, filling virtual carts with items we have no intention of buying, can become addictive. We may justify our use of social media platforms as a way to stay connected with our children, but we all know it can easily turn into a time-wasting habit.
Instead, genuine connections with our children are nurtured through spending quality time with them, whether it’s through open communication and sharing experiences on the mobile phone or in-person. Digital distractions don’t always align with our goal to simplify and declutter our lives, instead, it can hinder our ability to prioritise meaningful aspects such as experiences, relationships, and personal growth.
Nevertheless, by adhering to the mantra K.I.S.S. ‘Keep it Simple Sweetie’, we can redirect our focus and fully appreciate the beauty and abundance surrounding us at any given time.